Matt W Cook

First of all, amen.
Second of all, there are many spoilers here, so stop reading if you don’t want to know the end!

I mean it, seriously, don’t read this if you haven’t seen the movie yet. And if you don’t intend to watch it, watch it anyway! The hype was right.

Okay, here we go.

Dark Knight was probably one of the best made movies I’ve seen in years. I watched it twice, mostly because of The Joker.

He was such an interesting character. And I think he was pretty much right in the wager he made with Batman. Remember when he said that he’d be able to turn the citizens against themselves? Batman figured that when the two ferries didn’t blow each other up he had been proved wrong about that. Batman figured that this was the indisputable evidence that the citizens of Gotham were basically good and the Joker was alone in his evil. But I think Batman was wrong.

The one ferry took a vote. Something like 75% of the people were for blowing up the other ship. But why didn’t they actually go through with it? Not, I think, because of their high morals, but because of their weak wills. No one was willing to press the button. Most of them wanted the other boat destroyed. But they just didn’t have the spine to do it. The Joker was right about their morality, he just overestimated their resolve. So if the movie was trying to prove altruism, I think it missed the mark.

We can see this with Harvey Dent’s fall, too. The greatest force of goodness was completely corrupted and became indistinguishable from the Joker himself. And his fall would have destroyed Gotham’s fragile morals along with his own had it not been for the fragile lie that covered it. So Gotham’s sanity, peace and safety depends on a lie about the Batman.

Maybe I’m digging too deep here, but I see this all as a commentary about self-image and self-esteem. We are Gotham. Mostly bad, but still with a stroke of good. And the majority of our bad is a sort of socially-acceptable bad, so it hardly matters. A few parts of our personality are completely screwed, like the Joker. So as we look at ourselves if we do not have a scapegoat to blame some of our wildest taints on, like the Batman, our whole system will collapse, because we will learn that we are not basically good, as we had thought.

I guess I’m just thinking out loud here. I loved the film, wonderful story, deep lessons. Watch it!

I’m hanging out with some of my favorite people in the world right now in the neatest part of Canada: Thorncliffe. I’ve always been interested in the neat demographics of the place. It seems to be almost completely Pakistani/Afghani.

But that’s not what is on my mine right now. My dear friends, Shawn and Hayley, are lovely people. And they quite obviously love each other. And as I see them in love I taste a bit of bitter-sweetness in my heart.

It’s sweet, because it’s great to see people I love in love with each other. Let’s face it, most marriages are not nearly as loving, affectionate or fun as they ought to be.

But it’s bitter because I haven’t seen my wife for more than a month. Ouch.

I’ve got my fair share of problems, but I’m willing to boast on at least this one thing: I’ve got a great marriage. Usually when you examine something deeply you find problems. Problems with you motives. Problems with systems. Problems with ideas. Very few things can stand up to real hard scrutiny and keep integrity. But I’d dare anyone to examine my marriage and find a glaring fault in it. Ruth and I have worked hard to love each other, and our work is paying off massively! I cannot understand the people who complain about marriage or talk of ‘settling down’ in marriage or about life becoming boring or routine because of marriage. My marriage is amazing, I have a wonderful wife with whom I’d be willing to live in the crappiest part of the world. It’s sappy, perhaps, but I am not complete without her. Ruth rocks my face right off.

So here I sit, alone in the dark, counting down to the day I hold her in my arms again. Soon and very soon, right?

So, Ruth, yar men bohut zyada pyaar karta hun tujhe. Aur yaqeen hoja ke me jaldi araha hun. Tere ghar aoonga, men agoona tujh ko lena. Tyaar hoja. Araha hun, men.

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I think it’s good for families to be pro-active in educating their kids. Let’s not leave it all up to the public schools, whatever our worldview is.

My little bro, Mike, recently upgraded his iPod to an iPod. So I was able to score his old one. But I didn’t have any music. So I looked around on the server where I used to work and I found about forty old Bollywood mp3s that I had downloaded there more than three years ago.

I’ve been a little melancholy this past week. The love of my life (the very thought of whom drives me bonkers with joy/desire/lonliness/delight/etc) is on the other side of the world along with the fruit of my loins. And then I start listening to the music I listened to when we were first married. Almost lost it. I ran around the house for a while. The songs that we played at the wedding are on the iPod. And I thought to myself, “dear Lord, I miss my wife.”

I’m listening to Roop Tera Mastana right now. It’s the very first Indian song I ever heard. Man…I miss my wife.

So Ruth, if you’re reading this, just let me say a few things to you:

There was once a boy who went away to Bible College. He met a girl there. They got together. The girl was great, but the boy didn’t really know that. In fact, the girl was such an amazing person that there was really no one else in the whole world who could have been a better match for the boy. But the boy really didn’t know that. So after some time the boy decided it would be better to break things off.
But then the boy had to take a trip across the ocean to the strange country that the girl was from. It was a really tough trip for that silly, wimpy boy. He didn’t have a fun time for most of it. He decided that he would never be able to live in such a strange, uncomfortable, unfamiliar country. So he wanted to break things off with the girl.
So he called her and tried to begin the breaking-off procedure. But suddenly the girl was thrown into a strange crisis. The boy felt that he couldn’t break things off with the girl during this horrible crisis, so he decided to wait until later. So he comforted the girl as best he could and just waited in the funny country until his return flight was booked. While he was there he also decided to make sure he had permission to marry the girl, just in case he changed his mind later. Also, because it would be pretty embarrassing if he didn’t ask while he was there, and people might think he had a problem with commitment. The girl’s father said yes, but the boy wasn’t really excited about it much.
So then the boy came home, and he found out that the crisis had gotten worse. It seemed that the girl was going to be sent out of the country and maybe out of his life. So the boy was made instrumental in keeping the girl that he didn’t really want to marry in his country. He didn’t really know what he was doing, but he was doing what people expected him to do, and he helped save the day, in the end.
But he still didn’t really realize how cool and awesome and wonderful the girl was. He still wasn’t sure he wanted to marry the girl or even date her. He told her all this, perhaps hoping that she would make the choice for him. But she didn’t. So he stayed with her.
He went to a friend’s wedding with the girl. It was pretty depressing because he saw how happy his friend was as his bride walked down the aisle. Suddenly that common wisdom sang in his head, “Marry the woman you love.” “I’m screwed,” thought the boy.
But the boy was made of such a weak personality that he thought himself unable to change the events he was in. He felt obligated to marry this wonderful girl. So he started trying to make the best of it, and things improved. He proposed, she said yes. They got married near the end of June. It was a nice wedding, I was there.

And then it happened.

The boy’s eyes started to open. He fell completely, utterly and unalterably in love with his wife. He started to see her clearly for the first time in his life. And he didn’t just see all the amazing things about her that he had missed. He started to see her for who she was. He saw the good, the bad and the ugly, and he loved them all. He loved his wife. The years went by and, much to the boy’s surprise and in opposition to all the predictions people had given him about marriage, life got better and better. The first year was better than being single. Second year was better than first. Third was better than second. Fourth better than third. The boy was dumbfounded and humbled. He was so sorry he had ever thought about leaving that girl. He discovered that saying “marry the woman you love” is not nearly as wise as “love the woman you marry.”
And as the boy types this little blog he has made he wants to send out this encouragement to all the married or nearly-married people out there. Love your spouse. It’s hard work, yes. It’s difficult, of course. It’s a really pain in the neck sometimes, naturally. But there is almost nothing better in the world than a man and a wife living together in that strong, grace-filled love that God knits them in. Amen.

Hey guys.

Marriage is different from a wedding. Everyone loves weddings. Most people I talk to seem to be pretty down about marriage. Odd, eh?

I remember the night before I got married I bumped into a stranger who told me that I was really in for it. He claimed that no girl was ever worth it because of all the freedom you lose in marriage. Some married friends would also tell me similar things, hinting that our affection was just because we were new at the relationship game and in a few years we would cool down and settle into a boring routine not unlike having a roommate. Generally, the picture we got of marriage before (and after) it happened was dim.

I was afraid for a little while that these experienced people were right. I was scared because I thought I really loved Ruth when we were engaged and first married. Could it have been that it was little more than an extreme infatuation destined to cool off and lose all its affection before our third year together? Critics of marriage had both experience and popular opinion on their side. Is marriage the prison sentence they make it out to be?

After four years of marriage I have come to place the following label on this sort of advice: CRAP

Four years and two kids has done nothing to abate my love, affection and energy for Ruth. In fact, I tell you the truth, I have more love, affection, passion and fun for/with my wife now than I EVER have. I don’t say this because I’m separated from her right now, I’m not being affected with an over-acting sympathetic spirit. I mean it completely honestly. The only thing that has cooled off in our marriage is conflict and misunderstanding. We have more fun and love and gentleness than we’ve ever had. This past year was our best year for marital bliss. Prospects for next year seem even better. I’m inclined to believe that every year after will turn out to be the best years of our lives. My marriage rocks.

I think, perhaps, it’s because we work for it. We are not willing to let anything quietly grow up between us that will damage our relationship. We refuse to live separate lives. We refuse to let petty things and mistrust get in the way of our enjoyment of each other. And it works.

In the end I think it’s the Gospel that makes our marriage great. The Gospel enables us to cover a multitude of sins with love. It also gives us the power to kill that sin after it’s covered. Christ is our marriage counselor.

So you were are almost married or newly marriage or marriage ages ago. Don’t settle for what our society calls a normal marriage. Work hard, trust Christ, and love your wife! There’s hardly an earthly joy that even comes close to a good marriage. Maybe that’s because marriage has a touch of heaven in it.

I have been borrowing a dear friend’s car for the past month or so. It’s really useful in a big city like Karachi. I think I’ve finally gotten used to driving here. Some people ask if the driving is difficult. I like to liken it to trying to sprint barefoot across a floor covered in shards of glass while being chased by rabid dogs. Miraculously, my feet are not bleeding yet.

The other night Ruth and her little sister Rani were asking me to show them how to drive. So we hopped in the car and found a nice, quiet area of town. We parked right in front of a mosque. I didn’t actually take them driving, though. They were a little nervous so we basically just sat there while I got them to press the clutch and change gears.

After they had had enough of that fun we decided to go to McDonald’s for milkshakes. So I hopped back in the driver’s seat and turned the ignition. Lo, and behold, the car battery was completely dead.

To understand the humour of what happened next you’ll have to understand some things about Pakistani culture.

Since we had only planned to sit in the car, Ruth and Rani decided there was no need to dress up special. Ladies generally never wear western clothes here and there are outfits fit for home that are not fit for outside. Rani was wearing incredibly miss-matched Shalwar Qamis, which is a very bad fashion faux-pas here. Ruth was wearing the pants of a Shalwar Qamis and a western T-Shirt, a fashion problem so big that I’ve only seen foreigners doing it. All of this was, of course, no big deal because we never intended to leave the car. But now the car was stuck. And, as providence would have it, we had broken down right in front of a mosque.

So I sent my ill-clad girls out to push the car. I was surprised by their enthusiasm. Girls are genereally not allowed to help with mechanical things here, so it was exciting. Their excitement faded a bit when the doors to the mosque opened and all the devotees started walking out, having finished their prayers.

But by this time they had already started to push, so there was nothing to do but continue. So amid stares and confused looks they pushed the car down the street until I got it started.

And if, at this point, you’re thinking to yourself that my little story was boring and a little pointless, just trust me on this: If you were Sindhi you’d think it was hilarious.

I found a new site the other day. Scribd. It’s a site where you can upload any documents you’ve written and share them with the world. I’ve signed up. Check it out.

Leaving Pakistan soon. Running around getting ready. I don’t feel too contemplative and on the rare occasions that I do I am far from a computer. So here’s some pictures of my baby to fill in.

I was just reading an evening devotional book by Spurgeon and I was so durned encouraged that I decided to post it in full for you all.

When the two disciples had reached Emmaus, and were
refreshing themselves at the evening meal, the mysterious
stranger who had so enchanted them upon the road, took bread and
brake it, made Himself known to them, and then vanished out of
their sight. They had constrained Him to abide with them,
because the day was far spent; but now, although it was much
later, their love was a lamp to their feet, yea, wings also;
they forgot the darkness, their weariness was all gone, and
forthwith they journeyed back the threescore furlongs to tell
the gladsome news of a risen Lord, who had appeared to them by
the way. They reached the Christians in Jerusalem, and were
received by a burst of joyful news before they could tell their
own tale. These early Christians were all on fire to speak of
Christ’s resurrection, and to proclaim what they knew of the
Lord; they made common property of their experiences. This
evening let their example impress us deeply. We too must bear
our witness concerning Jesus. John’s account of the sepulchre
needed to be supplemented by Peter; and Mary could speak of
something further still; combined, we have a full testimony from
which nothing can be spared. We have each of us peculiar gifts
and special manifestations; but the one object God has in view
is the perfecting of the whole body of Christ. We must,
therefore, bring our spiritual possessions and lay them at the
apostle’s feet, and make distribution unto all of what God has
given to us. Keep back no part of the precious truth, but speak
what you know, and testify what you have seen. Let not the toil
or darkness, or possible unbelief of your friends, weigh one
moment in the scale. Up, and be marching to the place of duty,
and there tell what great things God has shown to your soul.